Table of Contents
Foreword Stephen Arterburn ix
Acknowledgments xiii
Introduction Brenda Stoeker 1
Part I In the Wake of Betrayal 7
1 Brenda's Story 9
2 Valerie's Story 14
3 Crushed and Angry 21
4 What Loss? 29
5 All About Those Differences 37
Part II The Hardwired Differences of Male Sexuality 47
6 The Eyes Have It 49
7 Sex-His Language of Intimacy 62
8 How Does He Feel When You Say No? 70
9 Chilling Sex 76
10 Mary's Story 83
Part III The Softwired Differences in Male Sexuality 93
11 The Church Has Let Us Down 95
12 Male Wounds 104
13 Self-Inflicted Wounds 114
14 What Now? 124
Part IV A Rebuilder's Reflection 135
15 Under-the-Radar Mission 137
16 Helpmate 147
17 Dressings and Iron 156
Part V What's Normal? 163
18 Your Lagging Heart 165
19 A Merle Hay Road Moment 175
20 Moving Even Closer 187
21 The Long and Winding Road 201
22 Lagging Sexuality 210
23 Normal Sexuality 222
24 What If Change Never Comes? 234
Conclusion: The Possibilities 251
Workbook
Questions You May Have About This Workbook 265
1 Facing Betrayal 269
2 Fighting the Shame 277
3 Discovering Your Beauty 285
4 Understanding His Addiction I 293
5 Understanding His Addiction II 301
6 Loving the Man You Married 311
7 Rebuilding Trust 319
8 Drawing on Hope 327
Don't Keep It to Yourself 337