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365 Nights: A Memoir of Intimacy Kindle Edition

by Charla Muller (Author), Betsy Thorpe (Author) Format: Kindle Edition

3.9 103 ratings

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When Charla Muller's husband turned 40, she gave him something memorable. Sex. Every day. For an entire year.

The Mullers had a solid marriage and two wonderful children, but over the years sex had fallen low on their to-do list. The lack of intimacy wasn't causing them to drift apart, exactly, but their connection didn't seem as great as it could be. Charla decided she couldn't go on pretending the relationship they once had wasn't important.

The couple would embark on a year of scheduled sex, falling over Tonka trucks and piles of laundry in an effort to make time for each other. There were obstacles along the way (work implosions, faking it) and questions came to light. Will sex every day strengthen a marriage, or reveal the cracks? Pull a couple together or drive them apart? Does good sex (even mediocre sex) make up for things that aren't so good?

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About the Author

Charla Muller has worked for eighteen years as a publicist and special events planner. Born in North Carolina, Charla attended UNC?Chapel Hill School of Journalism. Betsy Thorpe, a transplanted New York book editor, met Charla Muller in North Carolina and cajoled Charla?s story out of her. Betsy runs an editorial services company.

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ASIN ‏ : ‎ B0015DYJ30
Publisher ‏ : ‎ Berkley (June 24, 2008)
Publication date ‏ : ‎ June 24, 2008
Language ‏ : ‎ English
File size ‏ : ‎ 404 KB
Text-to-Speech ‏ : ‎ Enabled
Screen Reader ‏ : ‎ Supported
Enhanced typesetting ‏ : ‎ Enabled
X-Ray ‏ : ‎ Enabled
Word Wise ‏ : ‎ Enabled
Sticky notes ‏ : ‎ On Kindle Scribe
Print length ‏ : ‎ 292 pages

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Michelle

Wonderful book

Reviewed in the United States on April 6, 2024

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This is a sensitive, funny and well written book exploring relationships in marriage. It is not vulgar in any way. I would recommend this book to anyone interested in improving intimacy in their marriage.

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Full Being

There is more than sex!

Reviewed in the United States on July 26, 2008

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As a male reader, it is fascinating to TRY to comprehend the sexual mind of women as compared to men's mindLESS view. Surprisingly, sexy Charla provides us with an entertaining and honest view from herself and 99% of her girl, book, and bible groups. Men would like to meet that 1% girlfriend that she mentioned. Ordinary Charla's down home style writing is refreshing and not premeditated journalism. Other reviewers' needs may be for deep academic written text on sex, or for 365 nights of Karma Sutra G-spot sex, or for the biblical view of sex, or for the professional romance mills of sex. This was one couple's struggle to creatively keep sex as JUST part of their marriage. This couple is having fun through life's mundane routines which says they have a lot more intimacy than sex. They are touching each other's souls with real love. You will enjoy this book to read and share.

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Mae Barker, PhD, BCBA-D

A great read about marriage and juggling life as a mom

Reviewed in the United States on January 13, 2020

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I liked the author’s honesty and braveness for sharing about her life and marriage. I also appreciated that it was more than just about having sex with her husband every day. It covered the difficulty of being a parent juggling kids, work, marriage and the other life events. It is gives one a glimpse that you are not the only tired, stressed parent trying to make everything work!

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Brian G.

Ugh, I tried, but this was just horrible

Reviewed in the United States on January 27, 2017

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Just seriously one of the worst books I've ever read. It never got to the point. I wasn't expecting explicit descriptions, but I didn't feel like it even really talked much about the challenges and rewards of 365 days of sex. It doesn't help that I'm not anything like her, and many of the things she discussed were 180-degrees opposite from how I feel. Like she drives a giant Suburban XL because it looks "cool," but it's okay because she recycles, sometimes. I wish I could think of more examples, but I threw the book out after I finished it. Thought about donating it to goodwill, but didn't want to foist that thing on another unsuspecting reader.

But my main issue is that this book's premise is that women hate having sex, and hate having sex with their husbands. All she talks about with her girlfriends are creative ways to get out of sex with their husbands?? This is simply NOT true among the people I know, and if this were true for anyone I know, I think they probably shouldn't be married anymore! What a horrible life to live! She just seems to paint both men and women in SUCH an unflattering light, that men only want sex, and will do anything for it, and are drooling idiots, and women spend their whole lives trying to avoid sex. By the end I was only reading it to see how bad the trainwreck got, and so I could write an honest review.

Sidebar: she spent a whole chapter on body image and accepting her body and using sex with her husband to feel better about herself. Amazing, I think that is AWESOME, this was maybe my favorite part of the book. Then she did a Ted Talk where she says she was so upset by how chubby she looked on Oprah that she lost 55 pounds! Again, that's fine, and great, but really goes against that whole chapter in her book on accepting your body!

12 people found this helpful

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M. Stevens

Misleading title and the point of view was one-sided.

Reviewed in the United States on May 9, 2010

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The author decides that she is going to give her husband a unique 'gift' for his 40th birthday; a year of sex. The author pops in and out hilighting specific instances that transformed not only her sex life but her entire family's lives.

Compared to "Just Do It" (another book of similar topic), I found this story lacking. If I had never read the other book, this would have been enthralling and touching. Instead, you find out very early on, they did not have sex for 365 straight days. They had sex most days but took many days off when they 'didn't feel like it' (sick, travel, etc).

Also, it was 95% from HER point-of-view while "Just Do It" felt like it was written by both the husband and wife.

4 people found this helpful

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Kerri

Good for those shy in bed

Reviewed in the United States on March 6, 2020

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I absolutely am in favor for anyone whom believes in trying to mend a broken relationship. It works, only on the basis you actually give it your all!

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Avid Reader

Goofy but entertaining

Reviewed in the United States on April 28, 2011

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My spouse and I have been taking turns reading it and reading funny parts to each other. It's a goofy book, based on a goofy idea.

We're not trying to match the author's Olympian efforts, nor do we even think it's a good idea to attempt. But it's kind of inspirational in a way, which is good, too.

However, the actual writing is very subpar. It's worse than the average blog, and, frankly, we are shocked that a major publishing house let a book with this level of writing get out the door. I guess the language sounds "natural" and not intimidating, but it just shows how dumbed-down expectations are for mass-market works.

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Puttycat1979

Love

Reviewed in the United States on September 15, 2016

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Highly recommended book by many friends so I had to buy! I have no words other than this is a must read!

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Roussitha

Pensaba que vendría en español

Reviewed in Spain on May 2, 2020

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Nada, no he podido leerle. No lo pedí en inglés y así vino.

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Doc Man

Disappointing

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on November 11, 2012

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What a terrible writer. It is all from her point of view and her small minded approach to life is simply not sustainable for a book's length.
The only thing she did interesting was to suggest having sex everyday for a year with her husband. Nothing else about her is interesting.
Even the hoped for insights into the impact on her relationship are submerged in a load of tedious detail and one of the most irritating writing styles I've ever come across.
Thankfully I only paid 99p for the Kindle so can delete it without wasting part of a tree.
"Just do it" is a much better book.

Heidemarie Mahoney

Köstlich und amüsant - kein knallharter Sexratgeber aber jedes länger verheiratete Paar wird sich wiedererkennen

Reviewed in Germany on November 19, 2008

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Tja - wie stellt man sie an die "einfachste Sache der Welt" wenn der Terminkalender übervoll ist, die Kids stören, der Fernsehgeschmack total unterschiedlich so wie in jeder normalen Partnerschaft? Mit köstlicher Ironie und gut plazierter Überzeichnung führt die Autorin durch ein Kaleidoskop von tatsächlichen Situationen, Wunschgedanken und nüchterner Abschätzung. Wer nach Techniken sucht und praktischen Anleitungen, der wird enttäuscht werden. Das Buch ist halt kein Sexratgeber. Aber es ist ein echtes Tagebuch (retrospektiv geschrieben und von Langweiligem bereinigt) und eine Gedankenreise zu all den brennenden Themen, die in einer Partnerschaft auftauchen, wenn man ernsthaft versucht, eine dauerhafte daraus zu machen. Zwei Menschen - zwei Individuen - und wie kommt man zum Kompromiss - jeden Tag, gerade bei den kleinen zermürbenden Alltagsproblemen. Wo ist da noch Zeit für - tja - Sex? Und zwar den, der immer etwas besonderes war. Warum und wann wurde es zur lästigen Pflichterfüllung?
Die Autorin geht es mit Augenzwinkern an und sorgt dafür, dass einem das Lachen nicht in der Kehle stecken bleibt.
Man legt das Buch mit guter Laune aus der Hand und dem Bewusstsein, dass es eigentlich doch klappen kann - eine Ehe zu führen, eine Partnerschaft, auch wenn man älter wird, und hässlicher, und sich verändert und ab und zu auseinanderlebt!
Der Afterglow dieses Buches ist es wert!
Nach dem prickelnden Sextagebuch sucht man aber besser woanders!

7 people found this helpful

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meditation man

Three Stars

Reviewed in the United Kingdom on February 14, 2018

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a bit same old same old